Middle School: The Land of Hard Knocks

"I've never run into a person who yearns for their middle school days."

                                                                             -Jeff Kinney

Middle school is a bumpy road for many children! This period of life from about 12-14 years old, is characterized by increased academic demands, social stressors, puberty,  an a desire for independence. Luckily, the majority of us come out the other side more resilient and a little better looking. For kids with ADHD, ASD, Anxiety, and a host of other challenges, the transition from 5th to 6th grade seems to mark a daunting three years of school for the entire family.  Here are some tips to help your kiddo thrive, and you survive!

Academics

Middle school is often the first time students have multiple teachers, group projects, independent work time, and need for an organizational system. 

• Expect homework every night
• Check the online grade portal with your child every week
• Compare the homework listed on the website with what your child has recorded
• Use a monthly calendar to track assignments
• Ask to see "completed" assignments
• Know the log in information for all online textbooks 
• Reward habits not grades (typically, good habits=good grades, but not always)
• Take any unnecessary electronics away (i.e. phone) during work time

Advocacy

With increased freedom, comes greater responsibility. Students are expected to communicate with their teachers as to be involved in their own learning.

• Help your child recognize his/her strengths and weaknesses 
• Allow your child to email teachers, or arrange a time to meet
• Identify important resources at school
• Model and teach effective communication skills
• Familiarize your child with any accommodations he/she is entitled 
• Set goals for specific skills or content areas
• Guide your child through the decision making process

Peer Relationships
Middle school is typically a time when your son/daughter may be spending time in new social circles. In addition, he/she is asking for more freedom, and less supervision while hanging out. 

• Monitor all social media accounts
• Encourage face to face communication
• Turn in all electronics prior to bedtime 
• Invite your child's friends to the house
• Talk to other parents
• Require participation in clubs
• Look for changes in peer groups
• Know where your child is when out with friends
• Be clear regarding family expectations of behavior in the community
• Practice "excuses" to avoid uncomfortable situations